Monday, July 2, 2012

Kissing and Bikinis, Reposting from January 2012: Its summertime

Four years ago, our oldest was preparing for marriage.  It was an exciting time for us and as the Catholic momma, I got out the information on Catholic weddings along with the Emily Post's "Wedding Etiquette" my mom sent me.

A very interesting tidbit about the ceremony that I didn't know was about the kiss.  There, on page 356, is a little box that explains this tradition: 

"Behind the tradition" 

"You May Kiss the Bride"
Why does a wedding ceremony end with a
kiss?  A kiss was long believed to be the
medium for the exchange of spirits, where a
part of the bride's soul joined the groom's
soul, and vice versa, truly uniting the couple
as one.  In some cultures, a kiss literally seals
the wedding contract, while others a kiss is
not required.  Most people just think of it as
an expression of love."

Thinking about the study of Theology of the Body, we can safely say that as "soul bodies" we are sharing our soul with the other. Our bodies are the outward sign of our soul, which is who we truly are.  To be more clear,
"the sacramentality of the body is a visible sign for us of invisible realities concerning God and the deepest meaning of our existence.  Our bodies make the invisible love of God visible."
from TOB for Teens, page 20Leader's guide. 

So for this reason, we should take extra special care of our bodies and how we use it.

Besides this, a pet-peeve of mine is the practice of wearing bras and panties for all to see at pools, beaches, etc under the label of swimsuit, otherwise known as the "bikini".  This labeling has given women across the globe the stamp of approval to proudly wear underwear in public without imposing a misdemeanor infraction of indecent exposure.  Asking a fellow mother of 2 daughters how they figured bikinis are different from bras and panties, she quickly without hesitation, explained that "the material on the bikinis are thicker."  Wow, so that's how they rationalize it!  Hm, last I check the bra section, they came in many different varieties which were FAR more thicker than the flimsy bikini material!  What responsible parent would let their child leave the house with just their underwear on?  So how do they rationalize a bikini or even for that matter any 2-piece bathing suit?

As the mother of two teenage daughters, it is mine and my knight's job to teach them about purity, morality, and grace. In our society, these things are ignored, or unfortunately, put down as prudish and out-of-date. We are literally fighting a rapidly flowing current of liberal views and teachings, both in our public schools and airwaves.  As Catholics we are so blessed with the teachings of the Church, especially as parents the Theology of the Body.  With so many forms of this teaching we can find one that fits our families and season of life.  At our home we are studying TOB for teens, the high school bundle along with some old-fashioned talks and discussions about dating, marriage, and making good decisions. 

Modesty is not covering up, but revealing something more about the person, that there is more to the body than a means to an end, it is to be loved and cherished as God's child.  It is my wish that parents could see this for what it really is and show their children a better way, a more Godly way.


Tricia said...


Jenny said...

Great post! My 13yo daughter laughed at the rationalization given for wearing a bikini. Anyway, my name is Jenny and I just started a website devoted to the support and encouragement of Catholic women. It is called Suscipio and I would love for you to stop by for a visit.

kkollwitz said...

"...there is more to the body than a means to an end"

Well said.

Anonymous said...

Beautiful post, Ebeth! We have five sons (teens and adults) and it's very challenging taking them to a beach! Boys are very visual!

Renee said...

no bikinis in this house.. I do permit tankinis but they cover lots more than

Adrienne said...

Women look better in a well designed one piece suit anyway.

And how about the teenage girls going to school with more cleavage showing than some Hollywood stars? Coeur d' Alene high school clamped down on that sort of thing but Post Falls has yet to do so.

And check out the pics they take of themselves in every bathroom mirror they can find and then post on Facebook. 14 year old girls with pouty fish mouths, scanty clothes, and provocative poses. Where are their parents???

Anonymous said...

I admit that I've always found it ironic that in our society it's unacceptable for a woman or teenage girl to wear just her bra and panties in public, though it's ok for her to wear a bikini that is far skimpier. Go figure. One of our society's kooky inconsistencies...

Barbara Schoeneberger said...

This is a really good post. I agree with you wholeheartedly.

The worst thing about running around in underwear is that women continue to advertise that they are objects to be used, not beings to be cherished.

Ebeth said...

I am so glad you all are in agreement!!

Anabelle Hazard said...

Definitely in agreement. I would never go out in my undies so why go out in a bikini/glorified underwear. I just posted about having a conniption the other day about a hole in my skirt which possibly showed off a piece of my underthings - not for public consumption. Thank you for this post.

Unknown said...

i used to wear bikini and go to the beach, now i just wear it when i go sunbathing with my girl friends near the secluded lake.

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Bil said...

NIce article and well written...the two images were a bit over the top though.