Saturday, October 11, 2008

Got an invite today....

A dear friend of mine and my knight's is getting married soon. His first wife died a year and a half ago and he's gone on with his life. He came into the Church last year after a long period of discernment under his late wife's watch, but hasn't been back much since, from what I gather. Since getting engaged, they have moved in together and are cohabitating and will be getting married by some lady that attends a Catholic parish in the area, but is ordained to marry people at off-site areas like ranches, event halls, etc and professes to be a Catholic.

I'm REALLY confused.

Question: Can I attend his wedding?

Here's an answer from Catholic Exchange:

But what if a Catholic were getting married outside the Church? This is yet another very serious question that many Catholics wonder about today. Can a Catholic attend the wedding of another Catholic who is marrying outside the Church? Although there is no legislation to prevent a Catholic from attending such a wedding, in the document Orientalium Ecclesiarum (no. 26) of the Second Vatican Council, we learn that divine law forbids any common worship (communicatio in sacris) which would damage the unity of the Church, or involve formal acceptance of falsehood or the danger of deviation from the faith, of scandal, or of indifferentism (a tendency to think it makes no difference what we do). Therefore, whether or not it is wrong for you or any Catholic to attend the wedding of a Catholic marrying outside the Church depends on the possibility of your presence or participation causing such things to occur.

Many Catholics and other Christians, for example, do not understand the seriousness of the sin of scandal. But Jesus Himself warned, “Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened round his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea. Woe to the world because of things that cause sin! Such things must come, but woe to the one through whom they come!” (Matthew 18: 6-7). “Scandal is a grave offense if, by deed or omission, another is deliberately led into a grave offense” (CCC 2284).


phatcatholic said...

If you go, what are you going to say to your children? "Mommy and daddy are going to a quasi-wedding performed by a heretical woman priest, see you in an hour!" And if you take your children with you they are going to have to witness this atrocity! The scandal that it will cause to your own family should be enough to make you refuse the invitation.

Was that too harsh? I'm not harping on you, I promise. I know that you would not do anything to scandalize your family. It's just that blatantly heretical "liturgies" by women "priests" get on my last freakin nerve.

Linda said...

Going would be condoning the scandal.
I would (after praying for the Grace of course!) tell my friend that though I love him, I could not support a choice that opposes Catholic teaching. It might not be easy, but we have to stand on the side of the Truth, AND set the example for our children.