Ah, June brides, the Sunday paper with the Weddings and Engagements...oooh Bridal pictures! Hmmmm, what fun reading over where they're ceremony was held, the honeymoon destination, what the bride's gown is like, the reception, all the guests! The special day is coming or has arrived and special it was! However, I wonder how many would splash their names and pictures for all to see on their decision to cohabitate? I can see it now, the newspaper section would read, "Weddings, Engagements and Cohabitation announcements."
This subject has been bothering me for quite some time. It seems that there are an awful lot of young people "shacking up" together for various conveniences and "well, we are engaged". Whatever! Now, how is that living within the realm of righteousness in the eyes of God? How can we see this as an OK situation? Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free? A woman that agrees to live with a man without a marriage vow is cheapening her good name and character. Beside the fact that it is a risky business moving in together without being a formal family, people are people and anything can....and WILL happen; be it death, a falling out, change in attitude, illness, who knows! These things make a difference in the relationship and then you have to go about the business in undoing the combining of stuff. That is painful.
This attitude that, "If it feels good, do it" If it feels good and no one else is involved, who does it hurt?" If it feels good to move in and play married couple before the ceremony no one else is affected, right? Are there parents? Are there nephews and nieces? Are there neighbors? Friends? Folks at Church? Do they know about this? We live in a world where it is better not to say anything than to correct....or counsel each other. What happened to being corrected? We live in a society where there is no right and wrong....just a lot of gray areas.
Talking to my knight just today, "If one of our daughters decided to live with a guy, how would you feel?" He said, "I wouldn't like it at all, but it would depend on how old she was." I countered, "What difference would her age be, would that change how you felt about her living with some guy?" He thought about it for a moment and then said, "No, I still wouldn't like it. It's not how I would want her to live, no, age wouldn't really play much of a part, you're right."
These couples are hurting their parents, breaking their hearts, no it isn't alright, no it isn't the way they would like to see their children live...believe me! These parents don't say anything because they don't want to upset anyone and feel that they won't be able to stop it anyway. These cohabitating couples are breaking their parent's hearts.